Expectation = Soulmate?

Ok... the internet is quite spoil... SO SLOW!!! Hahaz... anyway... long time no blog cos of the internet! Keeps on giving error messages!
Went out with my army friend, darren, today and we had fun eating Fattening things like NACHOS WITH HOT THICK CHEESE AND DRINKING STUFF LIKE HOT CHOCOLATE!! Atrocious right?!!! I really have to stop all these nosensical habits of junking... But its really difficult. I will try. Oh... spent quite alot of time talking to him just now. We were revolving around the topic of friendship. He told me something, which i find very true. He said that the expectations that i have on my friends are too high and that's why i am often unhappy when being let down by them. He also added that i focus more on the tangible side of friendship, which is not entirely a bad thing. However, an overdose of the above focus would cause me to be too reliant and dependent on my friends and that isn't very healthy. We came to a conclusion that one must have a balance on the tangible and the intangible sides (intangible side here means the mutual understanding of the roles play by individuals in each others' lives even if they do not get to meet up often).
I agree with him. Actually, one of my close friends, 'G', had told me this before. G said that i must really learn to be independent, especially when i go abroad, and must have my own opinion on everything. One must not be swayed easily by people around one.
At this point, i'm not really sure whether i'm really setting high expectations on my friends. You know, a person needs time to try changing, change, adapt to the change and finally accept the changed self. This is not an easy task, especially for me. Maybe it’s the me within who is searching for a person whom i can call him/her my soul-mate. I'm not sure whether there's such a thing in the world but i would really, really hope to have one whom i can relate at least a 90% to.
On several occasions, i thought i have found mine. However, there were also incidences which hold me back from 'crowning' this person my soul-mate. I need further affirmation. Its not that this person lacks the quality to become one. I think it might be my expextations are set beyond the attainable level.
I would really hope to receive this affirmation soon. Then, i would able to hold my head up high and tell him/her that my world is always reassured by him/her.